Why Do We Shout In Anger?

A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked:

‘Why do people shout in anger at each other?’

The disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because when we lose our calm, we shout.’

‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint.

Many among the disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples. Finally the saint explained:

‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all that is needed. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

He looked at his disciples and said:

‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.’

Being human we are all subject to moments that cause us to feel anger. It is important to understand the effect that this has on our heart energy which this parable shows us so wonderfully. It is with this understanding that we can take the action to move past the initial situation that may have caused anger and closed the heart and move to a place where the heart is more fully available. This comes with conscious awareness and practice and can be a learned skill that provides a different option when anger arises.

We seldom make the most effective outcomes from a place of heightened anger – we often act and speak without concern for long term effects when we are agitated and angry. The heart should always be involved as we make decisions and move to action. When we are angry the heart becomes closed and we then are left to act from the wounded ego without the balancing of our heart energy. Outcomes are never as good when we our action is done without heart involvement.

Learning to live from a heart open space is part of the education process that we hope to master as we come into this earth plane existence. So it becomes important for us to choose to live in this place no matter what situation arises that tries to pull us out of it. If we do encounter emotions that pull us out, to learn to have the wisdom to move back to a more heart balanced place as quickly as possible. This is a life long process of self mastery, but one that ultimately leads to being able to walk in peace moment to moment.

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Four Life Questions

With time, healing, accepting responsibility for our lives and with the grace and wisdom that comes from maturing there comes a time that each of us must ask and seek answers to four basic questions:

1. Who am I? This is the basic question that asks us to look beyond our physicality and ego and find who we really are at our core being. Have you ever truly asked yourself, who am I? When we have found the answer to this question it changes everything. When we are not sure of who we are, we live life questioning and guessing where to go and what to do. But once we are sure of our own nature, assisted by reliable inner guidance we live our lives from a place of confidence. We are able to find comfort in our own being and live from that place.

2. What do I love? It is so necessary to feel and identify those experiences that cause us to be expanded by the emotion of love. What we love has the ability to draw us forward and shape our life and destiny. Our love teaches us what to look for, where to aim, where to walk. With our every action, word, relationship and commitment, we slowly and inevitably become what we love. So it becomes vitally important to learn to know what we truly love – not what we are supposed to love, but to discern and choose those things we truly love. Then to involve what we love more fully in our daily lives.

3. How shall I live knowing that I will die? The reality that our time incarnate is limited and when it will end is not know can be the impetus for how we choose to live. A clear perception of our death forces us to consider our life as something worth living; gives us the wisdom to make the most of whatever time we do have. Life is impermanent and it is precisely because of its impermanence that we value life so dearly. When we awake to our own mortality then we begin to appreciate that we are alive. From this awareness can spring the determination not to waste what precious time we are given and to focus on making something meaningful of our lives.

4. What is my gift to the family of Earth? We each come into this world with gifts, talents and inherent visible aspects of our soul personality and energy. Every day we are given countless opportunities to offer our gifts to those at our work, in our families and in our relationships. To recognize that we have gifts and own the responsibility to share these gifts with others is a part of our life journey. Identifying what our soul wants to give to others and then be courageous enough to open and share is our gift both to others and to ourselves.

Quoting the Dalai Lama – “We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety, a hundred years at the very most. During that period we must try to do something good, something useful with our lives. Try to be at peace with yourself and help others share that peace. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the meaning of life.”

If you have not yet answered these four questions for your life, then doing so may bring wisdom to your journey and richness to the time you remain here.

Discover more at http://www.pastliferegressionutah.com

Four Life Questions

With time, healing, accepting responsibility for our lives and with the grace and wisdom that comes from maturing there comes a time that each of us must ask and seek answers to four basic questions:

1. Who am I? This is the basic question that asks us to look beyond our physicality and ego and find who we really are at our core being. Have you ever truly asked yourself, who am I? When we have found the answer to this question it changes everything. When we are not sure of who we are, we live life questioning and guessing where to go and what to do. But once we are sure of our own nature, assisted by reliable inner guidance we live our lives from a place of confidence. We are able to find comfort in our own being and live from that place.

2. What do I love? It is so necessary to feel and identify those experiences that cause us to be expanded by the emotion of love. What we love has the ability to draw us forward and shape our life and destiny. Our love teaches us what to look for, where to aim, where to walk. With our every action, word, relationship and commitment, we slowly and inevitably become what we love. So it becomes vitally important to learn to know what we truly love – not what we are supposed to love, but to discern and choose those things we truly love. Then to involve what we love more fully in our daily lives.

3. How shall I live knowing that I will die? The reality that our time incarnate is limited and when it will end is not know can be the impetus for how we choose to live. A clear perception of our death forces us to consider our life as something worth living; gives us the wisdom to make the most of whatever time we do have. Life is impermanent and it is precisely because of its impermanence that we value life so dearly. When we awake to our own mortality then we begin to appreciate that we are alive. From this awareness can spring the determination not to waste what precious time we are given and to focus on making something meaningful of our lives.

4. What is my gift to the family of Earth? We each come into this world with gifts, talents and inherent visible aspects of our soul personality and energy. Every day we are given countless opportunities to offer our gifts to those at our work, in our families and in our relationships. To recognize that we have gifts and own the responsibility to share these gifts with others is a part of our life journey. Identifying what our soul wants to give to others and then be courageous enough to open and share is our gift both to others and to ourselves.

Quoting the Dalai Lama – “We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety, a hundred years at the very most. During that period we must try to do something good, something useful with our lives. Try to be at peace with yourself and help others share that peace. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the meaning of life.”

If you have not yet answered these four questions for your life, then doing so may bring wisdom to your journey and richness to the time you remain here.

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New Heights

There are some life experiences that are of such a spiritual magnitude that it affords us the opportunity to reach new heights. The view from these high, spiritually connected places allows us to expand our view and to feel from a new and different perspective. I recently had such an experience – it was entered into with the thought of needing to hold spiritual space for another to do their work. But in the process those of us who were holding space and doing the role of facilitation were as dramatically affected as the one working in our collective held space.

There are times that our Soul calls us to immerse ourselves deeply inward and to live for a few moments in a high vibrational space so we can have the vision of where we are going. I believe that what follows is that we move back into our daily routine – but never in the same way – we are deeply altered by the experience. We are called to reflect on what has occurred and seek ways to use this new information as we move forward in our lives. It is a time of change – we can no longer remain in our old energy – and we are not yet at the heights of the new vision. It is that place of growth that is both unsettling and exhilarating at the same time.

Being human we have the duties of the mundane always before us – even after the ecstasy there is always the laundry, etc to be done. We must hold the larger vision of where we are going even while we are engaged in the daily routines of life. This is the gift of deeply spiritual experiences – they shows us new heights that can sustain us when we return to the routine of life. It is as though we ride a wave of growth and experience, with each one taking us to new heights that sustain us even when we are at the bottom of the wave. In the process we are ever moving upward, never returning as fully to the place we were before the experience called us to rise once again.

It is through this progression of soul-full experiences that continually draws us forward, upward to our greater Soul purpose – even though the ego mind may not readily see the reason for the change. It seems to leave us somewhat “deer in the headlights” as these experiences transpire. But there is an inner knowing place that deep spiritual movement is something that must be responded to – even when it calls for unsettling change. It requires us to leave our present moment comfort zone and move across that dark void we call growth and transition – yet again. And no matter how many times we have been called to make this journey it is still a bit of a fearful experience – to leave what is know and enter into “the past is gone, the future is not yet here” space. This is our transition zone – which is rich with real change, real growth – expansive moments in our lives.

That we have these opportunities for spiritual evolution and growth is part of our journey as human beings. Perhaps this is the real work of the evolution of consciousness – riding a spiritual wave ever higher until we reach the final vibration potential for humanity and then learning to live from that place moment to moment. As we each do our work we contribute to this evolutionary potential.

Thought Forms

I recently had the privilege of working with a client that clearly showed me the power of long held thought forms and patterns.  It has led me to reflect on how powerful the mind is at interpreting our individual world based on the programmed thought patterns that form our inner world and become our outer experience as well.

Being human we all are imprinted with thought patterns – beliefs, judgements, opinions, etc. that come from our caretakers as children and then added to by friends, acquaintances, significant others, educators, and many more.  Some of these patterns are benign – causing us no inner limitations that transfers to our outer experience.  If, as the thought forms and patterns are initially imprinted, they are done so with elements of emotional difficulty – pain, fear, disempowerment, denial of the self, loss, disrespect, etc. then it creates thought forms and patterns that are limiting and disrupting in the present moment.  It seems that sometimes these negative imprinting patterns are done without intent or malicious design – but the most damage to our inner thought forms is done when the patterning is done by purposeful, malevolent intention.

Whenever there are mind patterns that are ingrained and are tied to unresolved emotions they create limits in our behavior.  We may not feel safe or have deep emotional reactions if we stray outside the limits that are in our mind.  It is as if we can only move down a narrow hallway and if we stray outside the bounds of the narrow space then we fear something difficult will occur – so we limit our experience to avoid the possibility of encountering the underlying unresolved emotions.  I am reminded of how a baby elephant can be trained to stay in one place by a chain attached to one of its legs.  As it grows it clearly becomes strong enough to pull the stake out of the ground – but in its mind it is held fast by the long held thought pattern of the chain.  So it is with long held, unresolved thought forms and patterns that keep us from being our full selves and living to our highest potential – our self-imposed chains that imprison us long after those that imprinted the thought forms are gone.

This prison of thought forms will be held in our mind and limit our life experience until we grow strong enough, seek professional assistance, and even spiritual intervention to help us break the long held patterns of painful restriction.  We must become aware of these limitations and have grown weary enough of their presence to finally choose to seek out help and make this dramatic change.  By altering these thoughts that block us from our inner light and peace we reach into our inner darkness and pull ourselves more fully into the light.  Our soul of love and light becomes present and as it does it makes new, positive thought forms and patterns from which we can live our lives more fully in grace.

This is the long and difficult journey of healing – removing limitations and their underlying cause to reveal the beauty of our inner being of love and light and to live fully integrated from that place.  This allows us to expand the positive potential for living in the moment and stop the internal limitations and the battlefield of the mind that causes internal and external suffering and strife.  As we heal ourselves we can then offer healing energy to others – bringing each out of darkness more fully into the freedom of peace, love and light.

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Trusting the Flow

We all have a life that is currently in progress and our ego mind has a sure idea of how it thinks our life should unfold. It also tends to fret and worry when there is uncertainty or when there are obstacles that seem to loom in our path – even when we may have created these obstacles. We also tend to fall into emotional traps when life as we thought it should be or wanted it to be, just isn’t materializing the way we hoped and planned.

As long as we only look to our small, ego mind to give us life direction then we may always be subject to fears, frustrations and disappointments about our life journey. In fact the ego mind and its pain avoidance tendencies may lead us off into choices that cause our life to become derailed and require much need for correction to get back on track. It is important to come to the realization that the ego really doesn’t have all the information to be able to make our most important life decisions and to have accurate judgments about how our life is unfolding.

Learning to relax, breathe and trust that our Soul and its supporting network always knows the larger picture is not easy for the ego mind to embrace. It may be a lifelong learning process to be able to allow this trust to bring peace to the ego mind. It is not an easy task, but one that brings a more serene, positive outlook to the flow of our life.

The monkey mind only has past history as reference and does not have the ability to see into the future. So at some point we have to start to have faith – in ourselves, our intuition, destiny, karma, guidance, our soul wisdom, whatever you want to call it. When we can come from a place of trust and faith then we find an inner reservoir of hope, calmness, courage, confidence and assurance that no matter the outcome it is as it should be and for the best.

When we come from a place of trust and faith about the events and experiences that come into our lives it will support a continuation of this peaceful, positive flow. In this environment we can do the work to create the kind of self that we will be happy to live with for the rest of our lives. One that approaches life from a positive, grateful perspective. Gracefully accepting what may come our way, learning from it and not dissolving into an angry, resentful, worried mess whenever life gives us unexpected bumps in the road. Learning to trust and go with the flow is such a necessary lesson; giving us the ability to relax, breathe and bring more peaceful harmony to our daily existence.

This is not to say that “bad” things won’t happen in our lives or that we will never make a miserable, foolish mistake. But trusting our instincts and our soul guidance to give us the means to make the best of what has occurred, or to right the error of our ways is the means to move forward to the best outcome.