Becoming Unoffendable

It seems to be a lifelong process realizing the importance of becoming unoffendable. Many things occur in our life that may cause us to be offended. But, what does it mean to be offended? Being offended usually refers to an emotional state or reaction that occurs when someone says or does something that is contrary to our sensibilities or our concept of right or fair. The level of offense taken may be measured by the depth of emotional connection with the person who has done or said the offensive thing. The more you care about the person the deeper the emotional reaction may be.

Since we are all human, the “normal” reaction to something that offends us comes from our ego and since the prime directive for the ego is to defend itself, we go into defensive, protection mode. While this response is usually the initial reaction, it clearly may not be the best one nor the one to take dominance in the way we choose to respond to things that occur in our lives that are upsetting or offensive. It is not to say that a person will never have a reason to feel anger or sadness at an offensive situation, but one must not live in this space for any longer than necessary.

There is a story about the Buddha that is applicable to this subject:

There was a man who constantly harassed and insulted the Buddha, throwing all sorts of verbal abuse at him. But the Buddha never seemed fazed by this. When someone asked why he didn’t take offense, he simply replied…

If someone gives you a gift and you refuse to accept it, to whom does the gift belong?

So as with this story it is important to realize that when offensive things occur that the person who is being offensive is attempting to gift you some of their negative or painful energy. It may not be a gift wrapped in a pretty bow, but it is yours to decide how much of this “gift” you are willing to bring into yourself and hold in your emotions. It is also a fact that there are occasions that the ego gets itself all kinked up when there was no offense intended. So remembering that we have the choice of what we receive and perceive is always ours.

As long as a person continues to feel that the world needs to change in order for them to be happy, they will continue to suffer and no one or nothing outside of themselves can change that.

The most important step to becoming unoffendable is for the individual to come to the realization that the source of their suffering is not “out there” and beyond their control, but rather is within themselves. We can come to accept that we can never fully control everything that goes on around us, but begin to see that we have choice about how we will react to those things that happen in our lives. We can begin to see that by taking responsibility for our emotions we also gain the power to free ourselves from useless suffering about things we cannot control. In time we can come to know that nothing can touch and affect the state of our emotions unless we allow it. When you eliminate the room that was once filled with being offended, you make room for more love and compassion.

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Glass Half Full? Be Glad You Have A Glass

I have a dear friend who years ago gifted me a small piece of rose quartz with the word abundance carved into it. As she gave it to me she said that she was giving it to me not to draw abundance into my life, but rather that I would see the abundance that already existed in my life. Wise friend.

There are many ways to count the abundance in our lives. In our culture, too often we count our abundance and success by how much money we make and the volume or our material possessions. In reality abundance is not something that we acquire, it is something we tune into. It is not what we have, but what brings us joy that truly constitutes our abundance. So, abundance is about being rich, with or without having money. Riches that are not from an abundance of worldly goods, but rather from a contented mind and full, joyful heart.

When I was much younger, we were rather materially poor and it was during these years of limited financial income that I was gifted the lessons that showed me that it doesn’t require money to be rich. It requires an appreciation of what you already have. So many of the things that bring abundance into our lives are about gifts and experiences that touch our hearts.

If we stop counting our level of abundance in the physical, material form and look for the things that make us truly happy, peaceful, contented, supported and loved we will likely all find that our lives are indeed richly abundant.

It is important to remember that the Universe operates through dynamic exchange – that giving and receiving are different aspects of the flow of energy in the universe. So we must learn to value, appreciate and be grateful for what we have before we can expect to receive more. We also need to have a willingness to give and share in order in turn to receive. This is the energy cycle that continually creates abundance in our lives. Giving and gratitude are the doorway to abundance. Your most precious, valued possessions and your greatest powers are invisible and intangible. No one can take them from you – and you, and you alone can give them and you will always receive heart felt abundance for your giving.

Recognizing the abundance in our lives requires turning off the never satisfied, chatter box, ego-centric “monkey mind” and tuning into the wisdom of our heart and soul. The world is full of abundance and opportunity – our lives, no matter the course they have taken have provided rich experiences – a veritable bounty of life lessons. It may not be as important to recognize that the glass is half full or half empty – but to be grateful that we actually have a glass.

Whatever we need the most and always seem to be waiting for – whether it be peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of simple abundance – it will surely come to us, but only when we are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart.

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Battle of the Two Wolves

There is a Cherokee proverb that goes like this: “There is a battle of two wolves inside us all. One is evil. It is anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, lies, inferiority and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness, empathy and truth. The wolf that wins?? The one you feed.”

Being human we all have this internal opposition of forces – but it is what we act upon that decides if we remain true to a higher intention and vibration or if we succumb to baser forces and vibrations.

I have moments that I don’t feel so well either physically or even emotionally – I am sure you do as well. It is in these moments that we are likely to be most tested about our intention and commitment to ourhigher potential. For the ultimate measure of a person is not where they stand in moments of comfort and convenience, but where they stand in times of challenge, controversy and discomfort. Life, like a string of tangled Christmas tree lights, will gives us many experiences that will test our patience, our endurance and our good humor. It is in these moments that it becomes vitally important to not lose our way, but to stay focused on which wolf we want to feed.

I think it is also important to remember during times of turmoil that we do not undertake traversing difficult ground alone. We are never alone and are guided, cared for and supported by many in this world and in other realms. There are life experiences so great that without the assistance from our Guides and Teachers we would not be able to reach a safe shore. This has been true in my life – for which I am deeply grateful.

Any experience that causes a negative emotional reaction may trigger our “evil” wolf. It becomes important to find positive outlets for negative emotional reactions…or perhaps as I was told as a child, just count to ten before you decide if you will react. We all feel negative emotions – anger, disappointment, hurt feelings, etc. but just because you feel them doesn’t mean that you have to act on them. If fact, just the opposite is true – given a little space of time the emotional reaction will dissipate and you can regain your balance without having said or done anything you might regret later. It may be useful to use the “if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all” approach until you can get a better perspective.

There is useful information underlying the event that triggers our “evil” wolf. Under the emotional reaction is the stored pain of an unhealed aspect of ourselves that is reminding us of the work we have yet to do. It is good to know – but still not a good reason to act on the impulse – only to observe for areas calling out for our attention. It is never justifiable to hurt others because we have been hurt ourselves.

Paying attention to which aspect of ourselves receives the most attention – the most of our energy is the first step in being able to consciously make choices about which wolf we will feed. It is not realistic to expect that we will never have a negative reaction, only that we will have the focused commitment to rise above and consciously choose to act out of compassion even in the most difficult, trying and uncomfortable situations.

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Power of Intention

As humanity became more immersed in the societal structures that have become the world environment that we live in today, we progressively became disconnected from the natural world. We began to view ourselves, somehow, as the users and dispassionate observers of nature – as separate and apart from it. Ancient traditions knew, understood and lived lives that were not separate from nature, but knew that they were a part of the natural world. In a world that knows and values such interconnectedness it was impossible to be only a passive observer. They knew by the power of their intention, observation and action they played an integral part of the planet as a whole…..and accepted their place and responsibility in it.

Our modern environment has created a sense of separation – man vs nature, you vs other, outside of us vs inside of us, them vs us, etc. This has contributed to much of the chaos, destruction, war, etc that is so prevalent on the planet today. A return to a healthier understanding that all things created (including us) are from the same source – the driving force that moves through all creation. In such a world paradigm we can come to honor, respect, value all of life. However, it will only be by the power of intention that we can move to this higher plane.

Intention may be defined as a plan of action – a focused design – an aim that guides – action – an objective, purpose or goal. I would suggest that these words only describe a portion of what is needed to truly achieve the outcome by setting an intention. Successful intention needs three elements to be truly effective – thought, emotion and feeling. Without all three elements the success of intention work may be less than desired. Each element works energetically to draw the desired outcome to us. If thought = emotion = feeling, then our world mirrors the effect of our intention. So it is not enough to simply think you want change – you must be able to incorporate more of yourself in the intention. This involves adding the power of emotion and then feeling it in your body. By example, if the intention is to live in a peaceful world, then it is necessary to formulate it into thought (a clear vision) and add the element of emotion to that desire, then feel and hold the feeling of the peaceful world in the body/mind. This is the most successful way to achieve the desired outcome of intention work.

In the Hopi wisdom they eloquently remind us that each time humanity strays from the natural laws that affirm life in this world, our choices are visible in our societies and the systems of nature around us. As our hearts and minds become so separate that we forget one another, then the Earth acts to bring memory of our greatest attributes back into focus. “When earthquakes, floods, hailstorms, drought and famine will be the life of the every day, the time will have then come for the return to the true path. When prayer and meditation are used rather than relying on new inventions to create more imbalance, then they (humanity) will also find the true path.”

These words of the Hopi serve as a simple reminder of the quantum principle which states that to change the outcome of events already in motion, we must shift our beliefs regarding the outcome itself. This is where the power of focused intention comes into play. With enough beings directing their intention to a new direction, a new world, a new paradigm then we can create a new, better, higher outcome.

“If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” Mother Teresa

“Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive at that goal.” Martin Luther King, Jr.

When the power of peace is greater than the love of power….only then will there be peace.

We must be the focused intention dreamers to bring the new world into reality.

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Why Do We Shout In Anger?

A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked:

‘Why do people shout in anger at each other?’

The disciples thought for a while, one of them said, ‘Because when we lose our calm, we shout.’

‘But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.’ asked the saint.

Many among the disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples. Finally the saint explained:

‘When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…’

The saint continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all that is needed. That is how close two people are when they love each other.’

He looked at his disciples and said:

‘So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.’

Being human we are all subject to moments that cause us to feel anger. It is important to understand the effect that this has on our heart energy which this parable shows us so wonderfully. It is with this understanding that we can take the action to move past the initial situation that may have caused anger and closed the heart and move to a place where the heart is more fully available. This comes with conscious awareness and practice and can be a learned skill that provides a different option when anger arises.

We seldom make the most effective outcomes from a place of heightened anger – we often act and speak without concern for long term effects when we are agitated and angry. The heart should always be involved as we make decisions and move to action. When we are angry the heart becomes closed and we then are left to act from the wounded ego without the balancing of our heart energy. Outcomes are never as good when we our action is done without heart involvement.

Learning to live from a heart open space is part of the education process that we hope to master as we come into this earth plane existence. So it becomes important for us to choose to live in this place no matter what situation arises that tries to pull us out of it. If we do encounter emotions that pull us out, to learn to have the wisdom to move back to a more heart balanced place as quickly as possible. This is a life long process of self mastery, but one that ultimately leads to being able to walk in peace moment to moment.

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Four Life Questions

With time, healing, accepting responsibility for our lives and with the grace and wisdom that comes from maturing there comes a time that each of us must ask and seek answers to four basic questions:

1. Who am I? This is the basic question that asks us to look beyond our physicality and ego and find who we really are at our core being. Have you ever truly asked yourself, who am I? When we have found the answer to this question it changes everything. When we are not sure of who we are, we live life questioning and guessing where to go and what to do. But once we are sure of our own nature, assisted by reliable inner guidance we live our lives from a place of confidence. We are able to find comfort in our own being and live from that place.

2. What do I love? It is so necessary to feel and identify those experiences that cause us to be expanded by the emotion of love. What we love has the ability to draw us forward and shape our life and destiny. Our love teaches us what to look for, where to aim, where to walk. With our every action, word, relationship and commitment, we slowly and inevitably become what we love. So it becomes vitally important to learn to know what we truly love – not what we are supposed to love, but to discern and choose those things we truly love. Then to involve what we love more fully in our daily lives.

3. How shall I live knowing that I will die? The reality that our time incarnate is limited and when it will end is not know can be the impetus for how we choose to live. A clear perception of our death forces us to consider our life as something worth living; gives us the wisdom to make the most of whatever time we do have. Life is impermanent and it is precisely because of its impermanence that we value life so dearly. When we awake to our own mortality then we begin to appreciate that we are alive. From this awareness can spring the determination not to waste what precious time we are given and to focus on making something meaningful of our lives.

4. What is my gift to the family of Earth? We each come into this world with gifts, talents and inherent visible aspects of our soul personality and energy. Every day we are given countless opportunities to offer our gifts to those at our work, in our families and in our relationships. To recognize that we have gifts and own the responsibility to share these gifts with others is a part of our life journey. Identifying what our soul wants to give to others and then be courageous enough to open and share is our gift both to others and to ourselves.

Quoting the Dalai Lama – “We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety, a hundred years at the very most. During that period we must try to do something good, something useful with our lives. Try to be at peace with yourself and help others share that peace. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the meaning of life.”

If you have not yet answered these four questions for your life, then doing so may bring wisdom to your journey and richness to the time you remain here.

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Four Life Questions

With time, healing, accepting responsibility for our lives and with the grace and wisdom that comes from maturing there comes a time that each of us must ask and seek answers to four basic questions:

1. Who am I? This is the basic question that asks us to look beyond our physicality and ego and find who we really are at our core being. Have you ever truly asked yourself, who am I? When we have found the answer to this question it changes everything. When we are not sure of who we are, we live life questioning and guessing where to go and what to do. But once we are sure of our own nature, assisted by reliable inner guidance we live our lives from a place of confidence. We are able to find comfort in our own being and live from that place.

2. What do I love? It is so necessary to feel and identify those experiences that cause us to be expanded by the emotion of love. What we love has the ability to draw us forward and shape our life and destiny. Our love teaches us what to look for, where to aim, where to walk. With our every action, word, relationship and commitment, we slowly and inevitably become what we love. So it becomes vitally important to learn to know what we truly love – not what we are supposed to love, but to discern and choose those things we truly love. Then to involve what we love more fully in our daily lives.

3. How shall I live knowing that I will die? The reality that our time incarnate is limited and when it will end is not know can be the impetus for how we choose to live. A clear perception of our death forces us to consider our life as something worth living; gives us the wisdom to make the most of whatever time we do have. Life is impermanent and it is precisely because of its impermanence that we value life so dearly. When we awake to our own mortality then we begin to appreciate that we are alive. From this awareness can spring the determination not to waste what precious time we are given and to focus on making something meaningful of our lives.

4. What is my gift to the family of Earth? We each come into this world with gifts, talents and inherent visible aspects of our soul personality and energy. Every day we are given countless opportunities to offer our gifts to those at our work, in our families and in our relationships. To recognize that we have gifts and own the responsibility to share these gifts with others is a part of our life journey. Identifying what our soul wants to give to others and then be courageous enough to open and share is our gift both to others and to ourselves.

Quoting the Dalai Lama – “We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety, a hundred years at the very most. During that period we must try to do something good, something useful with our lives. Try to be at peace with yourself and help others share that peace. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the meaning of life.”

If you have not yet answered these four questions for your life, then doing so may bring wisdom to your journey and richness to the time you remain here.

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